Dealing with the loss of a loved one takes a lot out of everyone. It’s why Farenga Funeral Home is here – to help hurting families in Greater Queens plan funeral services, giving them the time they need to grieve their loss. Experts also agree that the very act of planning a meaningful funeral service, with all of its personalized touches, can help one cope with grief. Grieving is an important part of the healing process that helps us all cope with our loss and move on in our lives without that special person we love. But for men, sometimes the grief can become internalized, and they may not feel like outwardly expressing their sorrow.
If you are a man who is grieving, or if you are seeking help for a friend, Farenga Funeral Home suggests these four steps to help men deal with grief in a healthy way.
1.) Admit the need to grieve.
Elements of grieving can include crying, sorrow, or the expression of other emotions (like anger or depression). Acknowledging that need to grieve is the first step.
Once a man has admitted that he is grieving, it is necessary for him to identify the ways in which he deals with grief, if at all. While every man is unique, men are more likely to deal with grief in one of these ways:
- Remaining silent
- Grieving internally
- Immersing themselves in work or other activities
- Turning to addictive behaviors
The common theme among these is an attempt to hide the grief from others. Unfortunately, the more a man hides his grief, the more likely it is that it will surface as irritability or hostility toward others.
2.) Recognize how you are expressing your grief
You are not alone. Although the process of grieving is highly individualized, most people find it beneficial to describe and analyze their grief with others.
3.) Seek comfort and support from others
If you are having trouble expressing your grief with friends or family, it might be a good idea to seek out a male grief support group. If group therapy seems overwhelming, it is important that men open a dialogue about their emotions with someone they trust. Whether you choose to confide in a friend or a support group, seeking comfort and support from others is the third step toward grieving positively.
4.) Set aside the time to grieve
This time should not include other activities. It’s not that grieving for eight hours a day during work or while you read the morning paper is required; rather, you have a specified amount of time each day or every other day to contemplate your grief. Some people choose prayer, meditation, or even flipping through pictures.
Remember, grief is something we must all deal with at one point in our lives. If you do not address it, it can permeate every aspect of your life and harm relationships with other loved ones. In terms of masculinity, it is far more courageous to open up to others and allow them to help you deal with your grief than it is to turn inward or toward an addiction in order to cope. We can offer support with grief brochures, recommendations on popular books, and suggestions on local and national support groups. Please feel free to contact us today if you need help starting this process. We are here for you long after the funeral ends.