How to Deal with the Loss of a Mother/Mother Figure

At Farenga Family of Funeral Homes & Cremation Service, our compassionate staff members help families cope with the deaths of immediate family members, including mothers. If you have lost your mother, seeing neighbors celebrate Mother’s Day this month throughout Queens and Astoria can be difficult and painful. We want those who are grieving this loss to know that they are not alone.


Here are some tips on how to deal with the loss of a mother or mother figure:


Let yourself fully feel and grieve the loss.

Many people who have lost a loved one try to get back to normal as soon as possible following the death. It’s a common belief that doing so will help you feel better sooner. Suppressing your emotions tends to only prolong your grief and result in more suffering over the coming weeks and months. After losing a mother, let yourself fully feel your emotions, whether these be anger, despair, or sadness. Acknowledge that your daily functioning and habits will likely be impacted for a while following a mother’s death. Allow yourself time to get back to your usual routine and seek support from loved ones when you need it.


Prioritize self-care.

When you’re deeply grieving, it can be easy to let things like exercising, eating a healthy diet, and socializing with loved ones fall to the wayside. Do your best to get enough sleep, drink lots of water, spend time outdoors, and take part in hobbies and activities you enjoy. Self-care doesn’t have to mean meditating for an hour. It can be simply taking a morning walk around the block or sipping herbal tea in the evenings.


Seek professional help.

A mother’s love for her children is unique and not easily forgotten. The death of a mother or mother figure is unlike any other type of loss, and moving on after the death of a mother is complicated. Seeing a professional grief counselor or therapist can help initiate and continue the healing process. If necessary, our staff can connect you with a local grief support group or counselor.


If you have recently lost a mother or loved one, we extend our heartfelt condolences. Contact our staff anytime 24/7 to start planning a funeral or cremation. We are here to help you during this challenging time and offer grief recovery services for families throughout the Greater Queens community.